The massive benefits of Forgiveness
Why do we hold onto so many things that no longer serve us? Why do we beat ourselves up over the past? I am going to share with you 10 extremely good reasons to understand why by mastering the art of Forgiveness you can create a life of happiness and Freedom. Are you ready to embrace change and start living?
•1 Forgiveness is Freedom from your Past memories
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and to discover the prisoner was you.”
Lewis B Smedes
By being non forgiving you shut down your power of awareness. Your awareness, your very consciousness becomes blinkered and harnessed to something which stalls you. By forgiving, by completely letting go of the problem you create a new perception of what is happening around you. You set yourself free from a very tarnished world and you make the conscious choice to allow abundance to flow freely again.
• 2 Forgiveness makes a truly great person of you.
“A man who is great enough to forgive is always greater than the forgiven. He is superior. He is greater than his adversary. “
It takes a big character to practice the art of forgiveness and believe me it is an art! You were brought up with so many inherited ideas, so many preconceptions that do nothing but mess you up! You were lead to believe that one religion is better than other, that one area of town is better than another, that kids from that school are all stupid, you know what i mean… the list goes on. This is all so futile. It is very rare that one person/clan is better than another, we are all the same and we all have an equal right to our beliefs. There is room for us all. You must forgive those who taught us all this: they have only been teaching us what they were taught themselves. Forgive them and enjoy the freedom that making your own decisions brings to you.
•3 Forgiveness Means taking responsibility for your wellbeing.
“To err is human, to forgive, Divine.”
Our thoughts create our results. This is not a new way of thinking. Jesus was telling his followers centuries ago that to remove an illness they had to forgive the sin.
Sin can be interpreted as going against the harmony of a law. The Law of Giving and Receiving for example, the more you give, the more you will receive. If you just go out and take, then you are going against the Law. You are changing the natural flow of energy. You are screwing up your natural good level of vibration, you are creating dis-ease.
4. Forgiveness means you stop creating Disease
“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”
•Medical Science has proven that harbouring guilt and resentment can cause cancer and all sorts of problems. I know this is a Huge statement but simple tests have proven that the emotion of Anger produces acid and acid creates havoc as we all know. A doctor maybe able to heal the effects of a disease, but you have to look at the cause- at what created it initially? Deep down you know a lot of answers but you don’t want to take responsibility for the fact that you subconsciously created the problem in the first place. You must stop hurting yourself, stop the perpetual struggle against disease and toxic thoughts. You must mindfully move on. How ever a situation arose and for what ever reason you did something, you made a judgement- it is done. It is past and you must learn from your past and leave it behind you where it belongs. You deserve so much more than that.
•5 The Quality of your forgiveness means everything.
“Once a woman has forgiven her man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast.”
Saying “I am sorry” with no meaning in it means nothing. You were brought up to say sorry, these words are normally empty- they mean nothing. But when you really look at why you are saying sorry to someone, you have to look at the cause of the problem and that means that you have to understand why you reacted in the way that you did. It takes two to tango that is true, but if you were feeling out of sorts you react in a very different way. Accept that there is a power within us that is greater than any pain we are feeling. That power is your Choice. Your choice to wallow in guilt and anger or do divert our attention to something far more worthy.
True forgiveness meant from the heart, will allow you to get back on track to your goals and achieve happiness in the present moment.
• 6 Forgiveness is Freedom from Guilt.
“Guilt is never an appropriate emotion.”
Guilt is like a toxic barrel of nastiness eating away at you. It serves no purpose except destruction. I am not giving you free reign to act like an idiot I am asking that you think before you respond and that you understand yourselves beautifully well enough, not to do things that would create the havoc of guilt. If it is a memory that is causing you guilt, it is in the past. make amends, forgive yourself in the first instance for being so out of sorts that you did it, forgive the other person for their part in the situation and thirdly understand that you have now learnt something wonderful from the situation itself. You can waste so much time living in the past and not enjoying the present. Learn to love the now.
•7 Forgiveness Benefits Me
“He who is devoid of the power to forgive, is devoid of the power to love”
Martin Luther King, junior
Lets forgive the misguided notion that forgiveness is an act of Charity.
Forgiveness puts you in harmony with your source, your God, your universe.
As you raise your level of consciousness you understand how you must use it to create your health and happiness. Buda talked about how we burn our own hands when we pick up hot rocks to throw at someone else for the sake of revenge. We hurt ourselves first, whilst we are planning our revenge….why on earth would we do that?
In my past, there have been certain people’s names that would actually cause such a swell of bad emotions, I could feel them rising within me. Would that person have any idea or care what effect they had on me without even being in the same room? No of course not and if they did they wouldn’t have cared a fig about it! I have forgiven myself for being so misguided that I could do this to myself – why would I create that pain? Forgiveness allows me to disregard other people’s opinions of me. It allows me to realign myself with my source.
Forgiveness frees you up from the paradigms lurking in your subconscious mind. All the road blocks that keep us doing the same and wearisome flaming thing. …. and that keep your mind circulating in that tiresome circle of chatter!
Forgivenss is a process, it doesn’t happen over night but little by little you will realise that you have freed yourself from an awful dark cloud, that you are now free to live your life as you wish.
•8 Forgivenss means we never need to try and control anyone ever again!!
“To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it.”
It is an impossible task and it isn’t your job to control anyone or anything except for our own thoughts and feelings. Forgiving others for their actions, frees you up to concentrate on the positive part of our friendships and relationships. People react in a certain way with the information that they have at hand, just like you no doubt have done. Become so grateful that you now understand that you have the choice.You always have the choice in the way that you respond to any given situation. Enjoy looking for the good in every situation and circumstance and see how much better it makes you feel.
9 Forgiveness creates peace within the other side
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”
Gently smooth over another’s ego and let them know that you have forgiven them. It serves little purpose to you but it can mean the world to them. Be nice, be compassionate and always be fair to your self.
• 10 Forgiveness is one of the most powerful acts that you will ever master
“When I let go of what I am, I become what i might be.”
Forgiveness allows us to expand and to understand. It allows us to realise that nobody has any power over us except the power that we allow them to have. Your past does not have to dictate your future…the choice is yours. Forgive truly and freely and enjoy the new beginnings.
Does this resonate with you?
I have spent oh so long wanting people’s approval. Some of those people were worthy and some most definitely were not! I forgive myself for being so misguided that I thought their approval was the be all and end all. It was not and it is not! What is important is that I forgive myself for all this wasted time and energy and transfer my thoughts now to creating what i truly desire.
I forgive, deeply and truly and I now appreciate the joy of my new found freedom.
I understand that love and guilt can’t co-exist, they truly can’t. They are at opposite ends of the scale. We choose where to place our attention and I intend to continually work at aiming high and to remember that firstly I forgive myself!