What is a decision?
Well, Dr Carole N Hilderbrand wrote
A decision is answering a question. Every question has to have an answer. It might not be obvious to us, but it is there if we know how to tune in to it. Wise people ask great questions and the answers to these enable them to grow. When we tune into a question the answer will come to us. But we must remember that the answer can only come back to us on the level that we put out the question.
“We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.”
That is why it is so important not to plan the entire route. Just plan the first step…more on this later…
1. Our ability to make effective decisions controls every single part of our life
Yet we are never taught how to make decisions! This seems absurd!
“…let one of your first decisions be a closed mouth and open eyes and ears… Genuine wisdom is usually conspicuous through modesty and silence.”
2. The Conflict between Emotion and Reason
There is frequently a battle going on between our conscious or thinking mind and our subconscious or emotional mind.
Our conscious mind has the ability to filter through information and make decisions on what it believes to be right. The subconscious mind has no ability to reason. It must accept what is fed into it: it can not differentiate between truth and a lie. Up until the age of about 6 our little minds have no ability to choose what to believe, everything we hear, see, feel and are told, goes into our subconscious and forms our belief system (our paradigms) Some are great and others can be utterly ridiculous!
We can think anything we choose to think- that is a fact. But interestingly, our thoughts tend to be in harmony with our paradigms. Our mind wants any easy life and it likes harmony. Discord sets us into a possible fight or flight reaction, our mind panics and all hell can break loose! Remember here that we attract like for like, so if our mind tells us to stay in the same place we will attract to us more of the same. This is why it is so very easy to become stuck in a perpetual rut of the same old thing.
Our belief patterns, or habits, or paradigms or what ever you wish to call them, make us comfortable to make decisions on what we can see and know in the present moment. Let us call them paradigms for sake of argument! Our paradigm will restrict our decision making based on past mistakes, fear of failure and a whole host of inherited and quite probably incorrect beliefs, for example we all have those little voices…
You can’t do that… Why did you ever even think you were capable of doing that? You know the little scratchy and shrieking voices of doubt (OR MAYBE IT IS JUST ME….REALLY?!) You know it will happen all over again… I don’t why you are even bothering to try again…. YES THOSE VOICES…. Money is the root of all evil… the list can be endless and has quite probably rooted into your subconscious that money is evil and that we are born to be a failure and miserable, enduring a mundane life!
Well Bah Humbug to that!
(By the way Money is not the root of all evil, the inappropriate use of money is a root of evil or inappropriate and shameful wastage……)
Well it is time to shut them up and regain control!
3. Trust your intuition and stop being influenced by others
Don’t be swayed by other people’s decisions. There will always be bucket loads of negativity that you can find and use to head on back to the procrastination playground. There will always be a host of the “I can’t do x,y,z brigade” but if you really start to tune into yourself and your dreams/ purpose, then people will appear who can help take you to the next level.
” If you are influenced by the Opinion of others, you will have no desire of your own”
When we lack self confidence we tend to want other people’s approval. This can be disastrous when applied to decision making, because unless we are asking people who have the same aims and similar goals, the answers are likely to stop us in our tracks. We are conditioned as humans to like a nice and comfortable safe zone. So many people can offer you so many opinions – do you know the ones I mean, “why would he ever fancy you? … Heaven’s you could never be good enough to do that… Why on earth do you think you are capable of….” are you getting the picture? Do a few “friends” spring to mind (?) I told you the paradigm would be back and back again and that you just have to watch out for its downright interference in your decision making!
I am not saying make ill informed decisions, I am suggesting that you gather all the facts available at this time, think of the bigger picture ( e.g. the gain of the end goal) and learn to listen to your intuition and reasoning faculties inside. Step back for a little moment, quieten yourself down and start listening to what is going on inside you,. The answer to nearly every decision will almost certainly already there inside. Allow the answers to move into your consciousness
I love the advice Bob Proctor gives.
If the first three answers are YES and the forth answer a NO, then go for it!
“When I have gathered enough information to make a decision, I don’t take a vote, I make a decision”