David Bowie’s Opinion on ageing
Recently I've noticed two very different types of people.
Those who fit into the life is over, it's crappy and downhill from here on in...the'm on the rubbish heap, seemingly invisible, no longer sexy and life is some kind of uncomfortable existence of ailments and decline brigade. Their rose-tinted glasses shape their past into nostalgic dreams, and their future has little meaning.
And to my increasing, leaping about in excitement and joy, more and more of the
"Hello...I'm here... Brigade".
Joyously spreading the word of the power, especially of midlife women, who are sexy as fuck, starting new life moves/purposes and careers, loving their lives, enthusiastic, "Thank God it's Monday Morning because it's the start of a new week", exponents, and knowing how to ask for exactly what they want.
This is music to my ears!
We are a powerful bunch when we choose to be so.
We have the experience, the love, the passion and the ability to, quite frankly, give fewer fucks about all that shite, that doesn't actually matter!
We're funny, collectively empowering, and ready to make the rest of our lives one big ol' badass party.
Now, I'm not saying shit doesn't happen.
It does.
Clearly!
But as Midlife women, we get to choose how we want to respond to said brown stuff.
Let it drag us down, or just deal with it as matter-of-factly as possible and move on.
I am a fervent lover of the latter, and not taking my eye off my bigger dream.
That's the important part.
The bigger picture of what I want to create with the rest of my life.
I came across this obituary for David Bowie written by Aaron Hicklin.
https://www.out.com/music/2016/1/11/david-bowie-obituary
Bowie, apparently unsentimental for nostalgia, had said,
“If you are pining for youth, I think it produces a stereotypical old man because you only live in memory, you live in a place that doesn’t exist," he told me. “I think ageing is an extraordinary process whereby you become the person that you always should have been.”
I love this so much as it reminds me to become the person that I want to be.
I'm not sure about the 'should', because that adds weight and possible guilt, but that excitement, that we can be more of who we want to be, thrills me.
One of the processes I do with my clients is reverse engineering their deathbed regrets. This may sound awfully droll and serious, but it's fabulously empowering, motivating and fun!
It's powerful and gets them out of the "Oh...if only I had done...X, Y and Z with my life..."
It allows them to create a future they love, get unstuck from what ever is holding them back, rebuild their self-esteem and Flourish
God, I love the word Flourish!
It's all of us. Mind, spirit and body living in harmony, with joy and purpose.
To eliminate regrets, and be more proactive about the rest of our lives.
It's badasserry at its best!
Midlife is a Pause, a time to celebrate and recalibrate.
Acknowledge there is something more, even if you can't quite put it into words as yet!
Acknowledge that your life is too important and too short to stay stuck.
If you are feeling stuck, overwhelmed or just lacking in purpose and passion right now, drop me a note and I can send you more information about how we can work together and get your Flourish back on!
Love.Marianne
